4 days later I learn that 10 embryos have fertilized, divided and been sent for PGS screening.
If you’re like me this is the first time you have heard of this. That’s the thing, before you experience IVF it is hard to imagine any of this.
“Preimplantation genetic screening (PGS) for aneuploidy is a powerful genetic test that may be performed on embryos during IVF treatment to screen for numerical chromosomal abnormalities. PGS is performed on a small embryo biopsy prior to transfer and identifies which embryos are chromosomally normal.” (Courtesy of google)
This test was important to me because knowing what embryos have the correct chromosomes helps to ensure we can create a viable pregnancy. It is impossible to know without this screening. Despite using a 29 year olds eggs there is still a chance of abnormalities being present.
Again, I wait. I will not know the results of this screening until tomorrow when I arrive for implantation. I go to bed praying that my 10 little golden embryos are strong and contain the correct chromosome makeup. I need as many of these as I can get.
After many months of legal negotiations and signature after signature we are here. The past 84 days have felt like forever. Each day I have imagined my little baby.
Will these donors help me become a mother? Will these donors help me reach my biggest dream? Will all of these tears, fears and financial investments actually lead to my desired result? I have put all of these questions in faiths hand each day. This has been the only way to keep going, to keep moving.
3/24 – Today the donor will have her egg retrieval. I need a good number of eggs as the reality is we will only likely end up with 60% of what we start with. My desire is to only fertilize SOME with donor sperm. I believe I will one day meet someone and having some eggs will give me an opportunity to have a child with this person and their sperm. This is VERY important to me.
I check my email again and again and again. No update. The waiting is torture. I must check my email a million times.
Finally… there is an email! I take a deep breath before I click it open.
16 eggs, 13 mature. My intial feeling is disappointment. All of the previous donations resulted in a larger number of eggs. I wish there was more. After I have a moment to sit with my initial feelings I focus on the fact that one of these 13 eggs will result in me becoming a mother. I tell myself to stay focused on this.
After seeking guidance from my physician we decide that there are not enough eggs to save some for future use. We must fertilize all of them. Remember, we will likely only end up with 60% after fertilization and chromosome testing.
I have such mixed emotions. I am so happy because I am closer to being a mother than I have ever been but I am also extremely sad that I won’t have any remaining eggs. Will someone want to be my partner if I cannot give them a child? Will my pool of mates decrease because I don’t have my own or donor eggs to have a child with them? This might sound irrational to some people but these are the thoughts in my head. I do my best to not sit in this mental space too long.
Step 1 done… now we wait for five days. What will these little eggs do when fertilized? Will they grow and divide as they should? Will they be strong enough? Will they be boys or girls? Again, just like every other step, a lot of questions remain.
As I end this very important day I pray and quietly cheer for each of my 13 eggs.