Who knew there was so much to consider and do when trying to conceive. My question, “What would have happened if I just went to a bar, had a one-night stand and got knocked up??”
I know more about my potential baby daddy than I do any other man I have ever slept with. Initially at least.
No, this doesn’t mean I’m a slut but rather it would have been weird to say, “Ummmm, excuse me, while you take your clothes off can you tell me your:
- Grade point average
- Genetic test results
- CMV – positive or negative (who has ever even heard of this one !?!)
- SAT scores
- Mom and dad’s height/ weight
- What historical event you would have liked to witness
- Personality assessment
Oh, and, by any chance do you have your baby photo in your back pocket? Three photos preferably.
I’m grateful to have all of these things about donor 14127, but it is also WEIRD and overwhelming.
People ask, “Why this donor?” I guess it is just a feeling I have. Hard to explain. Unless you have been in this position it might be hard to understand. After looking at what seems like thousands of profiles again and again I kept coming back to “him” – donor 14127. He is an “anonymous” donor, which means he wishes to not be contacted in the future. This brings up some questions in my mind:
- Is it fair to select an anonymous donor?
- Will my child be upset that they cannot find this individual in the future?
I don’t know the answers to these questions, but the reality is that most donors choose to remain anonymous.
Another topic that I should probably cover is my frozen eggs. Will I be using these right now or not? I have decided to save those eggs for another day and undergo an IUI instead. What is IUI?
- Intrauterine insemination (IUI) involves a lab to separate fast moving sperm from sluggish or non-moving sperm
- The fast moving sperm are then placed into the woman’s womb close to the time of ovulation when the egg is released from the ovary in the middle of the monthly cycle
Going with the IUI route I am able to save my eggs for later. Perhaps I will meet someone someday and we can have a baby together. Or, maybe in a few years I will want a 2nd child and I’ll have “old” eggs so I’ll need my frozen eggs. Who knew that someone in their late 30’s could have old eggs :). Basically, this just gives me more options in the future.
With all these decisions made the countdown begins. 1 month until we (me, dr., donor 14127 and God) make a baby…
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